But life moves on only to show
That some remain as lights in our life
Some fade off with the passage of time
Well one such person who influenced me, my life and my way of thinking was my father. He was the first man I ever loved. He remains as a light in our, lives. The second male to whom I look up for advice and support in times of need, one who again is my role model, is none other than my better- half, my husband.
A simple soul to the core he is a source of great inspiration not only to me but to the entire family. A man of few words, he is also a very balanced individual. Living with him, I learnt many a thing. I learnt how to prioritize our wants, to differentiate between the essential and the non- essential and to save for a rainy day.
A man ever thirsty to acquire knowledge, his vide zone of interests’ amazes me even to this day. I call him my Jack of all trades. But is he master of none? Well, you have to see him at work or in discussion on a given subject, to know what I mean by “No.” The skill, the thought process that goes into any work he undertakes is proof of the fact that he is “Jack of all trades and Master of all.” His thirst for knowledge, his eagerness to learn new things, try out new gadgets are infectious. Though I often start off with a “No, it’s not for me” I end up with, “Why this is amazing and so easy” thanks to the silent teacher, mentor and guide in him. He knows how to touch the right cord and that too subtly so that the transition, the transformation is smooth and silent, not embarrassing.
“Soft yet Stern” that is him. My daughter will vouch for that. As a kid she has seen the two streaks in him at close quarters. A man of principles, he is not one to cave in to threats or tears. Say or do anything unreasonable and you know you cannot count on him to support you. But the very same man cannot even think of a small thing like a mosquito drawing blood from his daughter’s fair skin. Such is his concern for her. Being one who believes in the fact that children too have self- respect, he has always made it a point to ensure that my daughter’s self- esteem, her self- respect is not hurt, even when he admonishes her for an errant act.
I have often heard people say that behind every successful man, there is a successful woman. But I often say,”Behind the successful me is a man, my spouse, my soul – mate.” A great motivator, he always encouraged me to take up higher responsibilities on the career front. If it were not for his support, his prodding’s, his belief in my abilities I would most probably have never moved up in my career, nor be writing this piece. I owe my writings, my blogs to him. He is the motivating force in my tryst with the world of words. He is also my best critic.
Now is he human? Well, yes in every sense. Emotions diverse like empathy and stubbornness are very much a part of him. But then unlike many, he does not express his anger, his displeasure by shouting or berating or throwing tantrums. No, the stubborn streak in him that one gets to see at times which is rare and far spaced, is an indication of anger / displeasure. Generally sober by nature he can be hilarious at times.
He is in every sense an ideal partner, a soul- mate. A great man, motivator, confidence booster and above- all a humble soul he i.e. my husband, is my role model, a man who leads me steadily and safely on the second leg of my journey called life.
Precious and semi-precious
Price tag affixed, they are there for one to buy
But gems there are some
Rare, priceless, not for sale
Lucky are they who are blessed with the same.
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